Lady Zamar says she no longer expects any apology in order to forgive and move on.

Hey, everyone! Let’s take a moment to talk about something that’s been making quite a splash in the music and social media world recently—Lady Zamar. If you’re not familiar with her, Yamikani Janet Banda, better known as Lady Zamar, is a talented singer and songwriter, and she’s been making headlines not just for her music, but for her courageous journey in battling personal trauma.

Recently, Lady Zamar took to Threads (a new platform for social interactions) to share something deeply personal—her thoughts on seeking an apology from a man she alleges violated her. She’s not shy about discussing the impact of her past experiences, and it’s a bold move from someone in the public eye. In her heartfelt post, she revealed that she once held out hope for an apology from her alleged assaulter but has come to a powerful realization.

Lady Zamar stated, “Now I realise I could not trust the apology of a person who actively violated me and spread horrendous lies about me.” That kind of clarity is hard-won and takes immense strength. She acknowledged that forgiveness and healing come from a higher power—”I will just trust God to fix that hurt. And soothe the anger instead of carrying it around with me. There is peace in Jesus Christ.” That’s a hopeful perspective that many can resonate with, especially those who have been through similar struggles.

For a little backstory, in 2017, Lady Zamar lodged a rape complaint against fellow SA artist Sjava, claiming he had assaulted her after a concert in Limpopo. However, Sjava has always asserted his innocence, making it clear in a 2020 video that he is not a rapist and has advocated against all forms of abuse. The ongoing battle of words has not only been a legal and emotional rollercoaster for both artists but has also sparked widespread conversations about accountability, victim support, and the music industry’s treatment of such sensitive issues.

What’s striking is how public perception can shift, especially when someone has the courage to come forward. In a candid moment shared on Showmax’s Unfollowed, Lady Zamar opened up about the internal turmoil she faced after going public with her allegation. “I had always thought it was my fault,” she said, reflecting on the enormous weight of blame that she carried. This highlights a sad but real aspect of many survivors’ experiences—the tendency to internalize trauma and assume guilt.

But look at her now! Through her journey, Lady Zamar is not just surviving but thriving. She’s turning her pain into power, and that alone is something to celebrate. Her recent disclosures remind us that healing is a deeply personal journey, filled with ups and downs and often requires us to confront uncomfortable truths.

In a world that sometimes feels overwhelmingly negative, Lady Zamar’s resilience is a beacon of hope. Her story sheds light on the importance of self-forgiveness and finding peace amidst chaos. So whether you’re a dedicated fan of her music, or just someone who appreciates her bravery, it’s clear that Lady Zamar is on a path that many can learn from—one of reclaiming agency, healing, and ultimately choosing peace over pain.

Let’s cheer her on as she continues to rise above and share her experiences, inspiring others to find their voices and heal in their own ways.