Umkhokha actress Sinokuhle opens up about her abusive lesbian relationship
Sinokuhle Ngubeni, the talented actress known for her role as Sibahle in the hit series Umkhokha: The Curse, has recently taken to social media to share her experiences regarding her tumultuous relationship with traditional healer Lungile Ndaba. After two years together, the couple broke up two months ago, and Ngubeni feels compelled to clear the air about the complexities of their relationship, which she describes as far from perfect, according to Sunday World.
In her candid revelation, Ngubeni recounted the challenges they faced as a couple, admitting that they often swept their issues under the rug instead of addressing them. “Our relationship has never been perfect. In fact, it was far from it, and we never worked through anything we faced. We just pushed it to the side and carried on as if nothing ever happened,” she shared. This avoidance led to a cycle of emotional strain, where both partners felt the pressure to maintain an image of a flawless relationship on social media, despite the reality of their struggles.
Ngubeni also opened up about the darker aspects of their relationship, including instances of abuse. She described feeling trapped, afraid to leave due to Ndaba’s manipulative behaviors, which included filming her during vulnerable moments. “There is so much that has happened behind closed doors, which I do not want to talk about. A lot of tears were shed,” she said, highlighting the emotional toll it took on her. The physical scars they inflicted on each other serve as a painful reminder of their tumultuous connection.
Interestingly, Ngubeni clarified her sexual orientation in her post, stating, “Now the rumours are both true and kind of not. I was never a lesbian. However, I …was bisexual, and she knew that.” This statement sheds light on her identity and the misconceptions surrounding her relationship with Ndaba. Ngubeni previously dated a man before her relationship with Ndaba and is now in a new relationship with another man, whose surname is uNdlovu. This connection has led to some confusion, particularly with her colleague Kini Shandu, who shares the same surname and is married. Ngubeni expressed her regret for any distress this may have caused Shandu and his wife, emphasizing that the Ndlovu she references is not Shandu.
In her message, Ngubeni made it clear that she does not seek pity or to portray herself as a victim. Instead, she takes responsibility for her part in the relationship’s dynamics. “I blame myself. Because both of us never saw anything wrong with banging each other on doors and breaking them,” she admitted. This self-reflection highlights her growth and the lessons learned from a challenging chapter in her life.
As Ngubeni continues to navigate her personal journey, her openness about her past serves as a reminder of the complexities of relationships and the importance of mental health. By sharing her story, she hopes to inspire others facing similar struggles to seek help and prioritize their well-being. As she moves forward, Ngubeni is committed to keeping her new relationship private, emphasizing her desire for peace and healing in her life.
