“Being a Lesbian Is Hard”: Nomsa Buthelezi Opens Up About Pain, Rejection and Resilience

South African actress and former Our Perfect Wedding presenter Nomsa Buthelezi has courageously opened up about the emotional challenges she has faced in the entertainment industry as a lesbian and plus-size woman. In a deeply emotional moment, she admitted that living authentically has come with a heavy price.

“They didn’t see my talent… they only saw my body and sexuality”

Nomsa revealed that she has often been judged before she even had a chance to prove her skills.

“I had to work twice as hard to prove myself because of my weight and my sexuality. They didn’t see my talent — they only saw my body and my sexuality,” she said.

Despite being a seasoned actress and TV host, she felt overlooked and underestimated simply because she did not fit the industry’s narrow standards of beauty.

Losing jobs and facing betrayal

Nomsa shared that the discrimination went beyond judgment — it affected her career opportunities.

She revealed that she lost jobs because of who she is and even experienced betrayal from people she once trusted.

“They threw me out like I was nothing… but God is still present and doesn’t sleep,” she said firmly.

Her words highlight just how cruel the industry can be to those who don’t conform.

Standing strong through the pain

Even after everything she has been through, Nomsa refuses to give up. She remains strong, proud, and authentic. She is happily married to her wife and continues to fight for visibility and acceptance.

Nomsa believes that her journey has a purpose — not just for herself, but for others.

Inspiring others to keep going ❤️🌈

Her message is clear: do not let society silence you.

She hopes her story will inspire anyone who has ever faced rejection because of their identity, body, or sexuality to keep fighting.

“Being a lesbian is hard,” she said through tears.
“But I will never stop being myself.”

A voice of courage in South Africa’s entertainment industry

Nomsa Buthelezi is more than just an actress — she is a symbol of resilience, honesty, and self-love.
Her bravery in speaking out is a powerful reminder that representation matters, and that talent should never be limited by stereotypes.

✨ Nomsa’s story isn’t just about pain — it’s about power.
She stands tall not only for herself, but for everyone who has ever been told they are “not enough.”

And that makes her a true inspiration. 🌈💪